This past week I was bombarded with friends and co-workers trying to hook me up with a lady that recently started at my work. “Why don’t you go out with her, she’s single. We just want you to be happy.” Then the teasing follows, “Oh you look good together.” To make it even more interesting, this lady that they’re trying […]
Ever since I got divorce I’ve always been ask if I already found a girlfriend. Both off and on work even on social media. Sometimes I get tired of hearing it and I do understand what my friends and family are doing for me and I appreciate that they care about my happiness. For those who is going through divorce and just got divorce. There’s hope for you. I don’t have a magic pill that I could give you to take the pain away. Neither a time machine for you to go back in time so that you could change things. Nor a helmet you could put on your head so that you could wipe those memories that are too painful to bear. What I do have is my own experience and by sharing it, I hope that it would encourage you because I’ve been there too. Take your time grieving, do not rush it. Never ever get into relationships – not until you’re fully healed and if you insist, I’ll tell you this it’ll be your first biggest mistake. What you’re doing is finding someone to fill that void and emptiness which makes you very vulnerable and some people will take advantage of that leaving you hurt again. If you have to cry, cry your heart out, it applies to men as well, there’s no shame to that. It proves that your human as everyone else. Do not rush […]
Like most individual I tend to run away from my problems. Instead of facing them, making excuses in my mind hoping that they’ll magically disappear or fix themselves. Postponing every chance I get, but it still there, not going away and the more I prolong ignoring it the more it becomes worse. Imagine a windshield wiper that is starting to worn out , that squeaky annoying noise. Then you wait until it’s totally worn out. You check the weather that day, sunny and clear skies. Out of nowhere a thunderstorm is brewing. The rain is so heavy that you could barely see the road. You realize you should’ve have change your wipers sooner, now you can’t see, you slow down, hoping and praying that you won’t get into a wreck. Weathers are unpredictable so is life. It is full of surprises. Today you’re up, later you’re down. Everything’s going well in your relationship, suddenly out of nowhere your love one wants to break up with you, on a text message! Nothing is certain. Trouble has always been brewing ever since the creation. It doesn’t discriminate, it could care less how old you are or what status in life you are in. Even the righteous individuals in the Bible have more than their fair share. Talking about fairness, and yet they pulled through it due to the fact that they have that power of choice. When we are beat down, we […]
Once in a while I had meet a few people and on these conversations my blog has been brought up. For some reason, I’ve always been asked if I’m making money of it. It’s always the first or second question. “Maybe in the future,” to which I replied. It is nice to always have an extra source of income, it is even better if you do something for the love of it not for the monetary reason. It saddens me that this world mostly is about making money like that’s the whole reason for existence. There’s this race of accumulating things. Yes, I was guilty of it too until that time I was broken and forsaken. I realized that life is way more than that. God never envisioned that kind of life for us. I am not saying making money is bad, it is the motivation behind it. In fact, the Bible even says that the love of money is the root of all evil (1 Timothy 6:10). Let’s break that down. It’s the love of money, the love of it not money itself. It’s not only one evil, all evil. When you do things solely for money, you become obligated to it. We have been taught that material things give us happiness. If that so then we would be satisfied with what we’ve got but the opposite happens. We want more and more and more. How many people out […]
A couple of weeks ago, the windshield washer on my car stop working. Not a big deal but an inconvenience. With the unpredictable weather in Kansas, it could get annoying. I came out with an idea to use a water bottle and poke holes on the cap and use that. I hate driving with a dusty windshield. The winds could […]
For reference, read the book of Hebrews 11. Life is full of choices. With choices comes consequences, both good and bad. When we make life altering decisions two factors would be dominant to influence the choice we make. By faith or out of fear. I know the argument that God influences people by fear. If He is such a loving […]
I remember around this time last year when I called my cousin. There I was on the phone talking to him, broken, how I saw in front of me the devastation I felt that there’s no more hope in saving my marriage and my family. To make it worse the betrayal I felt. The fear that engulf me once I […]
This world is full of bad things. No doubt about it. We asked God if He is such a good God why does He let it happen. Doesn’t He care? When it happens to us directly we get shaken and risk losing our faith, causing us to rebel and abandon our faith completely. We are worse now than before He found us. Reminds me of an event in Luke 11:24-26: “When an evil spirit leaves a person, it goes into the desert, searching for rest. But when it finds none, it says, ‘I will return to the person I came from.’ So it returns and finds that its former home is all swept and clean. Then the spirit finds seven other spirits more evil than itself, and they all enter the person and live there. And so that person is worse than before.” The Bible is literally filled with bad things happening to good people. We are not even comparable to their faith. Why did they endure such things? For one thing, they believe with all their heart and might added with insurmountable amount of faith. Second, they weren’t doing it merely for the merit or rewards but out of love, for the sake of their relationship between God and them. I could say that was one of the stumbling block that I had in my Christian life doing the things that God commands me to do in exchange of […]
Three most dangerous words. What is it that comes to your mind when I say this. You might be surprise that it is not what you think it is. I will give you a clue. It’s not something that could get you punch in the face or be thrown in jail. It’s not something that could ruin your career or mire your reputation. It’s not something that you could say to your spouse in which you’ll end up sleeping on the couch tonight or worse outside of the house. It’s worse than that. When you say these words, you’re allowing the other person to venture into your soul rather than staring at your body. It is the epitome of complete surrender. Knowing that the individual could betray you, hurt you, at any given time. But you don’t think of that because you know in your heart the moment you say those three words, it’s more than saying I trust you, it’s surrendering all of you, letting someone through the window of your eyes and venture deep into your soul. You are at work, he is a at work. You are at home and she has to travel far afar. Both of you would think,”I wonder what my honey is doing now?” Is she just working or is he flirting around? But you wouldn’t think that because he gave you his three words and she gave hers too. But life has […]
I am by no means a professional in the medical field nor I am implying a medical advise. Always seek professional help from trained medical professional and your clergy. We all have all our fears. Depending on one’s perspective it could be either destructive or constructive. I would like to talk about the first. Fear is a natural human response. […]
